Sunday, October 24, 2010

"Bihari"

I had written this post a long ago and i didn't think of publishing in my blog, but due to some people who made mockery of my ethnicity, provoked me to publish this. Here i am not proving or stating Bihar is good, i am just answering some people. Hope they understand.

BIHARI..........With this word, comes in your mind, image of illiterate, ill-dressed, tobacco chewing and rough behaving man. Isn’t it?

All right. I recount one of my train journeys when I had to go to Pune for an exam. Somehow my e-ticket got cancelled and I had no other option but to continue by general compartment. People sitting beside me were poorly dressed and looked as if they had come after swimming in a sea of dust. After some time they started chatting amongst themselves in “BHOJPURI”, a dialect of Hindi spoken in western part of Bihar. I belong to the same place. So, out of natural curiosity, I asked them in Hindi where they are from. Much to my surprise, their answers were Lucknow, Kanpur and Bhopal. I was surprised because none of these places lie in Bhojpuri speaking region. I didn’t lose the hope and tried the same question in Bhojpuri (my Bhojpuri is awful). The idea clicked and the answers went as Ara, Sasaram, and Patna. When enquired about their first answer they replied “Bihar bolne par koi izzat nai deta.”

I had written some part of this post in train while coming to Delhi (even one co-passenger enquired me if I am writing love letter. I excuse that poor fellow because it’s not his fault that I am in an engineering college). Last night, a Marathi old man sitting in front of me asked the usual question, “how is Bihar?”(as if it is in some other country).
My encounter with anti-Bihar freaks has taught me to handle such question and I decided to ignore. I said “uncle, you know better than me. Newspapers and TVs say it all. “

Old man (after a brief pause): There should be some industry in Bihar. Then people won’t come to Mumbai.

Me: There is nothing, no raw material, and simple economics says no one want to lose their money. So why will anyone set up their industry there?

Old man: some 20 years back, this situation was with Andhra Pradesh and Karnatka. But look now, they are giving fight to Mumbai.

(At once, I remembered movies of 90’s starring Ajay Devegan, Suneel Sheety, in which villain used to be some “Anna”, which are now replaced by “bhaiya”)

Old man: Every state has everything for development; it just needs political will power and some good hard working people for a revolution.

What do these two train incidents tell?
First one says situation is bad. But the second one says it’s not too bad.

Now, some statistics about Bihar, 47.53% population is illiterate, 42.6% people live Below Poverty Line (BPL). Considering this class of people of Bihar, general perception of WHOLE BIHAR is derived. We care anything else in this world when we have “roti, kapda aur makaan “. And we are expecting these people to show decency when they have none. These people are also good at heart but have a lot of self-esteem but constant suffering and rejection by main-stream of society have made them hard where their true nature gets hidden. Ok, leave Bihari, show me people from slums of Delhi and Mumbai (not from Bihar and those people should fall in above mentioned class) who are well behaving. There number will be in scarce. Conduct, manner, behaviour depend on our economic and social standings and it has nothing to do with region or language.

Over the years, I met several people who tag others “bihari” in sarcasm, but I excuse them considering ignorant. But if someone studying in my college (considered one of the best engineering colleges of India) uses such rubbish thing, I question his/her learning and knowledge. And I can say that there is no point in getting reputed degrees like MBA, BE, MSc, if you can’t respect people on their knowledge and capabilities. Instead if you go on branding and dividing people, and making mockery of their ethnicity, all these degrees are futile. Reflect upon these thoughts and clear your pre-occupied mind (if applicable ;-)

Sunday, October 17, 2010

Smile :)

Smile....5 letter word has more impact than anything other in this world. Smile is an investment which never incurs loss and always has higher returns. Universe's most beautiful thing, according to me, is the friendship between enemies and smile is the shortest way to do that. And the world's most dangerous thing is LOVE, this too starts when a girl acknowledges boy's smile. Trust me, no worldly thing can give you more pleasure than the pleasure you get when you know you are the reason behind someone's smile. That someone may be your parent, friend or girlfriend. (i think, my friends will connect more with the last one). I'll give you an example, just observe your mother's smile when someone praises you, and then feel your joy that you were reason behind that smile. Nothing equals your joy and that smile too.

The feeling is different when your love journey is between friendship and the formal propose. Then the smile of the girl has a lot of meaning for you. When you talk, your every effort is to make her smile(for this, you become the most foolish guy on earth ;) and when she smiles, Its altogether a different world. Isn't it?

Someone said,"life is like a mirror, you get the best result when you smile at it". Smile is the indispansable and only ornament of your body which costs nothing, yet people are now forgetting this ornament in the blind run of most insignificant things of world. World is now so much competitive that no one has time for smile, there is a fear that if they stop, hundreds of other will pass them but they dont consider the energy, which they will get from the smile, will help them to beat thousands.

So, we should always wear a smile because you never know who's falling in love with that smile.

Saturday, October 9, 2010

I Hate Growing

2-3 weeks back, my friend said,"I hate growing." My friend gave me many examples to support this statement. Though i was not satisfied with the justifications given by him, but certainly i agreed upon the fact that I too hate growing. Though i am a student and i don't do anything else other than studies to worry about but yet every night when i go to sleep, my mind is full of thoughts. On an average i have 4-5 hours of class everyday, and if i attend every class with full concentration, then at the end of day, i have no strength to do anything. Leave doing something creative. Interactions with friends are also decreasing day by day. I talk more on gtalk than face to face. And i think, many of my friends will accept this. Earlier, people used to sit together and share their life, feelings and by this they make others divide their pain and multiply joy. As i am growing, my responsibilities are increasing and this is what i am hating. Everyday i am becoming more bounded, thought wise, feeling wise and this is what i am hating. I have to take care of my marks otherwise i will not get a handsome price for my degree, i will not get a good college for MS. Those who lag in this race for marks in the highly competitive tournament are frustrated and this is shown at many places. Most common example is the gtalk status, their status are generally inspirational quotes. Let me give you some examples,"It doesn't matter you win or lose, what really matters is how you finish it." Another one"Dreams are not that you watch with closed eyes but dreams are those that doesn't let you sleep." Sometimes, i feel i am lost in this huge world and finding a door to get out is impossible.


Now when i am growing, there is no one to scold at me, i am the master of my own and this is what i hate. I love the days of my childhood whenever i did something wrong, 1 slap was enough to make my mistake correct. Now, when i do mistake, i miss the slap. I pray for that slap so that pain of the slap kills the pain of mistake. I love the days of childhood, when i used to become happy at every small thing of life, now i have to search the instances of happiness. I love the days of childhood when after a big fight with friend, we used to share lunch but now we have a new friend "ego", who eats our happy moments with our friends and we fight for useless things and kill our good time.

I dont know what is good or bad and i dont want to have any opinion but I suppose many of my friend can relate themselves here and THINK.

Monday, October 4, 2010

Prom Saga

Now, when notices regarding prom registrations are being put up on the hostel notice boards, the adrenaline level in every boy's body is at its highest level. I don't know much about girls, but i feel there is an equal fire on there side too. Today i saw a girl attending a particular class in which she never comes, later i was informed that she was expecting prom proposal from a guy, who comes in that class. So, she was providing him maximum opportunity to ask. Another girl who always comes in two tops, one red and another one combination of blue and white, was seen in third one.(probably her best one :)

People take different approaches to ask for prom, some people are spontaneous, some are strategic. Strategic people make strategy, what should they wear, which perfume should they use, what should they gift her, where should they ask the girl. Whereas spontaneous people are very casual, they can ask at most unexpected places like after class, while going to mess in most unexpected manner.

Now i will tell you some different approaches which i heard in last few days. One guy messaged the girl,"Do you want to go for prom?" No reply. Next day he again messaged," i want to go for prom with you. Are you coming?" No reply. Then the third day, he again messaged," Please reply, Either Yes or No. Are you coming?" No reply. Then he thought that the girl must not have balance. So he recharged her mobile with Rs.50 and then again messaged," Ab to bata do, will you go with me on prom?" I dont know the reply.

Another guy's story. The girl sits beside him in computer programming practicals. He was inspired by the movie "Rab ne bana di jodi" where Sharukh Khan proposes the girl with heart made by lights of Amritsar city, so my friend decided to propose the girl by making a C program. During 1.5 hours of practical, he made the program but unfortunately there were 16 compilation errors and when he removed those 16 errors, the program showed "segmentation fault"

One of my friend made an account on "way to sms" and messaged all the girls," i want to go on prom with you and ONLY YOU. Will you be my prom partner?" This is how people are innovating, so whats your plan???????????